Saturday, May 14, 2011

what does he want from me?

This is the question all women asked at least once in their lifetime.
This article is simply to help women understand the average man better so that they can have better relations with them and stop stressing out about them.

• First of all, what type of girl does a man wants? Most guys want a laid-back girl that they can trust and know that truly loves them for who they are, not what they can do for them or how much money is in their pocket. They want to girl that they can happily bring home to their mother and proudly declare to his friends and family that this is his lady. They want a confident, assertive girl that has ambitions of her own not someone who is meek, insecure, or needy.
• Do men only want one thing? Yes, it does not matter whether he is trying the friend, mentor (older men seeking younger women), the boyfriend, or any other approach. They are ultimately tying to get into your bed or find out what they have to do to get into your bed.
• Why are men afraid of commitment? Men fear commitment because they are afraid of getting hurt. Surprisingly, men are more afraid of getting hurt than women. Think of about it. When a man cheats, it is only physical not romantic. In most cases, the woman usually takes the man back. Men, on the other hand, when their woman cheats on them, they are not taking her back because they no longer trust her. I know it sounds unfair, but this is how men think. They do not forgive as easy as women do.
• Why doesn’t my man understand me? Men are not mind readers. Women are ruled by instinct, while men are ruled by logic. You have to tell men exactly what you want. Women also have to learn to take things with men at face value and not read into every single gesture men do. For example, if you are sick and man sends you flowers with a get well card. That is exactly what he meant, get well and do not die not that he is in love with you. Stop playing the mind games with men and just be real with them.
• Never knock a man down when he is already down. For instance, we are in a recession. People are losing their jobs every day. Do not badmouth your man and treat him like a failure if he lost his job. Support him and comfort him. Encourage him and let him know that you are there for him if he needs you. But if he declines, do not be offended. It is just his way of being a man. Men define themselves by what they do, and how well they provide for their families. If he is not able to provide for his family, then he questions his manhood. The only thing he needs from you is your love and support to give him the motivation he needs not to give up and get back on his feet.
• Leave the man alone when he is watching sports. Men love ESPN just like women love Lifetime. If he wants to sit down, unwind, and catch up on sports, then let him. As long as he is doing his manly duties, then it is fine. Give him his space.
• Finally, do not become the clingy girl who nags her boyfriend all day about the 5Ws (who, when, where, why, and how). Do not become the insecure girlfriend because if you do, whatever reason he chose you will quickly dissipate, and he will eventually let you go. Not because you are not good enough, simply because you are insecure and annoying him. Be your own person by having a life of your own. Never revolve your life around a man. Be confident, assertive, and the naturally sexy girl that you are inside. Men dig women like that.

In summary, women have to stop having all these unrealistic expectations from men. We are all imperfect creatures with flaws. The only thing that matters is that you find someone who is going to love you unconditionally, treats you like a princess, and lifts you up. If you have someone like this in your life, then he’s a keeper. If not, let him go and move on. It’s that simple.

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