Nothing is more painful than if your spouse having an affair. So much information available about what you should do if the husband had an affair, but very little is written about things that you should not do.
If you are not 100 percent sure that your husband cheated on her, before taking important decisions, you should first focus attention on what you should NOT do. This is difficult because usually the woman would be foolhardy to know their husband having an affair. When feeling angry, hurt, and wants revenge raging, common sense often forgotten. Here are 5 things NOT to do, complete with the reason.
1. Do not drive or leave it
As a first step, avoid expel husband, let alone leave it. Both of these are the last thing you should do if necessary. Right now all you need do is pay attention and watch what happens, while collecting facts. It is easier to do if you are still living in one house. If you throw or you are leaving home, it would be difficult to track what it does.
2. Do not tell to everyone
Naturally, if you want to tell her husband's infidelity to someone or seek support, either from friends or family. But be careful with what you describe. When you tell a female friend, usually he will tell you again on another friend. Make sure the person you made the vent is a person who can really be trusted and would uphold the secret. Better not tell your male friend as this will make the situation more difficult because they often will take a chance.
3. Do not pretend nothing happened
If you are being ignore, this will only make the situation worse.Whatever feels so pain to know a husband having an affair, you still have to face reality. Ignoring his infidelity gives him the opportunity to continue to enjoy the affair. Pretending there is no adultery committed by a husband will make her think you do not mind and accept infidelity does. At certain times you have to explicitly say to my husband, you know the affair and told him firmly to stop the affair.
4. Do not confront him without any evidences
Many experts argue, should confront your husband about the affair. But for its implementation, you must have a mature plan. Choose a time and a safe place so that the conversation did not get interference. DO NOT ask your husband if he cheated. He definitely will not be admitted. Show the evidence you've collected in the form of the name, date, place, telephone, and others. Then ask him some questions, like why he did it, how it happened very beginning, how long this affair had happened, how she felt about the affair, and what he will do after you find out what he did.
5. Do not be obsessed with the affair
Naturally, if you want to know about the woman's identity, but do not let your time and energy wasted just because the woman. Do not obsess on your curiosity about what they do in detail. Concentrate the mind on how to solve this problem for you both. Do not embarrass or frustrate yourself by calling and even berated her affair and demanded the woman's husband leaves you. He is not obligated to follow your commands.
Disrupt or even threaten to harm you. If one step can actually drag you into court. Insult, criticize, or belittle it will make your husband's defense. You will make them even closer. Forget women's affair and concentrate your energy and efforts to restore your marriage as before.
good luck.
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